When You Hate Your Job and
Co-Workers Hate You
What to do When it
of Moms on the Job: 7 Secrets to Success at Home and Work
average American will spend 40 percent of their lives at the
workplace. 150,000 hours on average. Being ostracized at work is an
intensely lonely experience that can cause stress to spill over into
the other 60% of life. These are the Top 10 reasons people may find
themselves receiving the cold shoulder on the job:
Particularly the one who makes comments about
people who don’t appear to work as hard as they do. This kind
of workaholic reduces job satisfaction, quality of life and increases
stress for everyone around them. Continue to work diligently and do
your best, but be sure to avoid commenting on the work habits of
others, it may go a long way towards improving group dynamics.
points out flaws and corrects things that most people would consider
extraneous. “The window isn’t clear – it’s
‘pellucid.'” The 'Know-it-All' causes co-workers
to lose face and risk embarrassment; therefore people avoid a
Know-it-All to avoid potential humiliation. Resist the urge to
correct someone in a group setting unless the mistake will
significantly impact getting the job done.
Closely related to the Know-it-All. The
Challenger feels compelled to thoroughly explore the possible
downside to almost everything. Playing “the devil’s
advocate” is a losing game – after all, nobody wants to
interact with the devil’s attorney.
Comes into work late, takes long lunches and is
the first one out the door at quitting time. Frequently found in the
break room, at the water cooler or on a smoke break with an office
buddy. Co-workers can’t help but notice this, and it probably
makes them think you aren’t pulling your weight.
”HA-HA-HA-HA! That was a good
one!” The Kiss-Up laughs too hard at the boss’s
jokes, looks for any reason to hang around higher-ups and drops the
names of VIP’s whenever it remotely fits into a conversation.
Co-workers avoid interacting with a kiss- up because it’s
difficult to stomach overt buttering-up.
Frank, the Mail Guy
Goes from workstation to workstation
delivering monologues about whatever is on his mind. If co-workers
are shuffling papers, not making much eye contact and their typical
responses are one-word answers such as: 'Uh-huh” “Yeah”
or “Unbelievable.” Then it is a hint - assume it’s
not a good time for them to talk.
The Inside Edition
Has her finger on the pulse of the personal
lives and careers of everyone in the office. The resident
“File-o-Fax” when it comes to the inside scoop on office
gossip. Please, avoid this besetting sin and be completely
trustworthy with personal or sensitive information about other
people. Keep secrets secret.
”HI, RITCHIE! I MADE IT INTO
WORK…HOW’S YOUR DAY GOING?” If people
frequently tell you that your voice “carries” or tell you
that you don’t have to shout; then kick it down a notch (maybe
two). Do yourself a favor and practice using your “inside-voice”
or your “whispering-voice” while on the job.
Baby, Baby, Oh Baby…
This is the working mom who talks
incessantly about her child. “Look at these pictures…”
“Guess what he did yesterday…” “Let me
tell you the funniest story about…” You’d be
better off sharing your child’s developmental milestones with
friends and family instead of co-workers. Children are an incredible
blessing and gift from the Lord; nevertheless, don’t overdo the
kiddy-commentary while on the job.
Odd Girl Out
more talented, prettier, older, younger or just more optimistic about
life than the rest of the office group. By no means should you allow
your co-workers to bring you down or steal your joy. It’s
possible their own insecurities have given way to plain old-fashioned
envy and jealousy. Stay positive, pray for them and ask God to grant
you peace in the midst of the storm. Remember, you have already been
Accepted and Not Rejected by Someone
infinitely greater than the group of people who work in your office.
Note to anyone who is suddenly wondering if they’re one of
these people. Remember this: all have sinned and fall
short of the glory of God. The Bible clearly states “There is
none righteous - no not one!” Everybody has had at
least one less-than-stellar moment. So don’t feel condemned if
you can recall an incident or two where you have been like one of
these characters. There is no condemnation in Christ.
Instead, prayerfully ask the Lord to help you keep it from becoming a
habit or a defining characteristic. All things are possible through
Christ who strengthens you.
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